You might be like the person above. If so, these tips you
are about to read is for you. What if you find out sure-fire ways to make
people like you? You might not consider this as of any importance but having a
fine social life, of having people around happy to see you, actually makes life
a lot better, meaningful, and colorful.
After reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by
Dale Carnegie, I am eager to share the timeless lessons to you! Let’s start
with the first one.
1. Become genuinely interested with people
If you are genuinely interested with people, you tend to
appreciate them and what they do. It’s more probable that if you like people, you
like yourself as well. We are fans of someone at one time in our life.
Discovering the reasons why you like these idols actually help. It shows, in one
way or another, the people who we want to become.
2. Always make a good impression
You’d be amazed to learn that people can tell if you are
likeable or not in just as little as 2 seconds! That’s right! Now, what can you
possibly do in such a short time to impress people? Actually, there’s a lot.
For one, it mostly involves body language. Exhibiting that you are confident
and worth anyone’s time is the secret. So you better stand tall and avoid looking
down or slouching.
There’s also another technique that works all the time to
win a good impression. It’s smiling. Smile can brighten another’s day and it’s
very welcoming. So smile.
3. Remember names
Here’s a quote from the book, “Remember that a person's name
is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Treat
people’s names as instant uplifters. Make an effort to remember names when you
meet them the first time. Ask their name again if you forget. On your next
meeting, especially when it is by chance, surprise them by addressing them with
their first names. It works like a charm and it instantly makes that person
like you.
4. Truly listen
When we converse with others, we are usually overwhelmed
with our life that we end up talking mostly only about ourselves. People tend
to hate anyone who talks only about their own struggles and problems at home,
what they ate yesterday, what they think of TV shows, and so on. It pays to
listen yet the rewards are tenfold. Once you intently and genuinely listen to
others, they will feel that you are interested with them. Try this out
especially when you are just making new friends. Listen to their story, ask
questions, and only share when they ask. Don’t worry if you think they won’t
stop talking. Eventually, they’ll get tired of talking, that’s the cue for you
to talk just for a bit. As you do this, the other won’t help it but like you.
5. Talk about their interest
Now that you truly listen, you may want to add another
ingredient in the mix. Talk about their interests. Do a bit of research and
know their likes and interests. You don’t have to know everything about the
subject matter, just know a thing or two. Even just by asking questions about
it can already lead to a meaningful and fun conversation. They’ll feel that you
are someone they can freely talk with since you both seem to have the same
interest.
6. Make them feel important
Now for the last tip, make sure you make the other person
feel important and appreciated. Not in a flattery way, but in a genuine way.
You can do this by complementing on what they tried to change in their
appearance, since it’s the most obvious. However, you can find thousand more
ways to show this. This can be through commending their work and effort in the
office and so on. A little “you’ve done a great job with how you made that last
call,” could mean everything to them.
There goes the six sure-fire ways to make people like you
and to win more friends. As you can see, they are pretty doable. With just a
little practice, I’m almost certain that you’ll have a meaningful and colorful
social life compared before.
